Toggin: Message Forums: Dating & Relationships: people with kids?? (Page 1)

seashellz

Berkeley College in New York

4 fans

Posted on Nov 12, 2008 at 2:34pm by seashellz

Would you be with a guy or girl who has a young child? if you like them does it matter or could you just not deal with it at all?

trevor remen

University of California-Santa Barbara

7 fans

Posted on Nov 12, 2008 at 2:50pm by trevor remen

I wouldn't completely rule them out of possible dating.... but it would be a VERY slow process leading up to the first date. I'd have to see what her intentions in dating are, basically I wouldn't want to date her if she is desperate for a baby daddy and would be simply using me for money/financial security.... because that is pretty fucked up from a guy's point of view (unless the guy himself is desperate for a woman... even then it's fucked up from every other guy's point of view).

she would have to be independent, driven, and, most of all, not desperate to be in consideration in my book.

dryice

SUNY at Binghamton

Posted on Nov 23, 2008 at 9:18pm by dryice

No, I wouldnt be able to deal with it all. having a child is a big responsibility. I can't date someone who's at a different place in their life, simply because I wouldn't be able to relate to them.

smwald

University of Michigan-Ann Arbor

Posted on Nov 24, 2008 at 9:34pm by smwald

ya - i think that it would be a really hard situation to be dating somebody with kids...

but, if you find the right one - you find the right one and a few kids will only get the family jumpstarted!