Toggin: Message Forums: Dating & Relationships: Sexual partners (Page 1)

seashellz

Berkeley College in New York

4 fans

Posted on Aug 19, 2008 at 2:57pm by seashellz

Does it matter how many sexual partners someone has had if you want to be with them? Have any of you ever lied about your number, either said you had more then you actually have or said you have had less, and if so why?

heidzelaine

University of Akron Main Campus

13 fans

Posted on Aug 19, 2008 at 6:33pm by heidzelaine

It doesn't really matter to me how many sexual partners my boyfriends have... and my friends and I always say we're going to lie about our numbers and say that they're less than they really are... but we never do.

pvt. joker

University of Texas at Austin

10 fans

Posted on Aug 19, 2008 at 7:42pm by pvt. joker

Sad to say there's a great disparity between genders. I personally can't even think about any girl i'm with and her "number"

Shawn.I

SUNY College at Oswego

3 fans

Posted on Aug 19, 2008 at 9:57pm by Shawn.I

It doesn't really matter much to me. As long as we're both "clean," then that should be fine.

rockettcollins

Austin Community College

6 fans

Posted on Aug 19, 2008 at 10:55pm by rockettcollins

What matters to me is the type of relationships my boy has had before me.

RedRaptor

University of Texas at Austin

1 fan

Posted on Aug 20, 2008 at 1:21am by RedRaptor

I only care about hers, because when I finally DO go on a date with someone in the far future, I know that I'll probably end up being the one who's very uncomfortable with sexual advances.

julian

Carnegie Mellon University

10 fans

Posted on Aug 20, 2008 at 9:45am by julian

I do think it would matter to me if there's a really large disparity, only because it could be indicative of a lot of other differences. That's not to say a relationship couldn't work out, but it would be something that you'd have to address pretty quickly upfront.

heidzelaine

University of Akron Main Campus

13 fans

Posted on Aug 20, 2008 at 12:06pm by heidzelaine

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I do think it would matter to me if there's a really large disparity, only because it could be indicative of a lot of other differences. That's not to say a relationship couldn't work out, but it would be something that you'd have to address pretty quickly upfront.

Good point.

lissa jean

Brown University

4 fans

Posted on Aug 20, 2008 at 2:30pm by lissa jean

A few years ago, I remember lying to someone because I wanted to seem MORE experienced. Definitely a silly move, because the truth came out eventually (if it wasn't immediately apparent with my fumbling)

bethanyc

Western Washington University

4 fans

Posted on Aug 20, 2008 at 2:37pm by bethanyc

I've never lied about it and have had no need to. My current bf and I have almost the same amount of ex partners so no big deal there. I do know that his ex-girlfriend had a lot of sexual partners before him, which he says really bothered him.

Rinihitomi

Austin Community College

4 fans

Posted on Aug 25, 2008 at 12:49am by Rinihitomi

People shouldn't judge on someone's numbers. I find it just ridiculous. The only thing you should care about is the type of people that they have dated and how it might influence your relationship. Really? Does a number matter that much? I mean you really shouldn't share that with anyone anyways. Its your past and you should only look to the future.

cugrl80303

University of Colorado at Boulder

1 fan

Posted on Sep 28, 2008 at 6:12pm by cugrl80303

Totally not a big deal, but it depends on what kind of relationship you're in. If you're with a guy you've been dating for a long time - doesn't matter. If it's someone you've known for like a week, that's gonna be a way bigger issue.